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For Doms and submissives

I have been given a task…

My assignment is to do a survey on humiliation.

Submissives

1. Please give examples of humiliations you enjoy (so to speak).
2. Please give examples of humiliations you dislike but will submit to.
3. Please give examples of humiliations that are simply over the line for you personally.

Dominants
1. What is the most common form of humiliation you subject your sub to?
2. What is your favorite act of humiliation?
3. What is the ultimate act of humiliation you save only for VERY special occasions?

Of course this will be x-posted in various forums.
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Anonymous

April 9 2006, 09:01:50 UTC 10 years ago

I am a male switch

Submissive

What I enjoy - being tied blind folded and delivered to someone as a "gift" for them to "enjoy.'

Being examined minutely, in every way, while bound and blind folded

Being displayed like a work of art, someone on auction while people discuss me as if i weren't there.

Forced to beg for pleasure, wen someone plays with my nipples they can get me to say almost anything to humiliate myself just to keep them playing with my nipples

To be spanked in front of others and then told to kneel in the corner while others giggle and point and revel in my humiliation

Dislike

Well, being peed on. They have to drink a lot of water and it has to be only one person that I'm ina relationship with and it has to be part of a larger context of her marking me as hers and that meaning that the relationship has a permanence that is long lasting. For me it would be part of a much larger ceremony of commitment.

Crossing the Line

Insincere humiliation or insincerity of any kind. When I see videos of Dom/mes tormenting someone and calling them names it just seems so forced. Even something that i enjoy is ruined if I can see the facade of domination. The person can't fake it, like a horse being ridden I will know immediately whether the person knows what they're doing or is trying to fake it. Just calling random names or pro forma verbal abuse is insulting because damn it I'm willing to put it on the line and if they aren't into it enough to reveal themselves in their abuse that they are just wasting my time. Don't phone it in so to speak though phone sex is great, those over the top moaners are a real bore.

I guess when you humiliate me verbally it better be personal and not just some ham handed attempt to be a loudmouth. Show offs are a waste of time. They don't engage my mind they just spout. It takes no imagination, no insight, no attempt to know me, to know what my buttons really are.

Also real verbal abuse that is nothing more than an anger issue masking behind abuse. Once I had a girl friend and we were talking with a group of friends about how children who are overweight make their cells bigger so it's easy to be overweight as an adult. At the time I was chubby. She said in a loud clear voice to me, "well, you must have had lots and lots of fat cells as a kid." and it wasn't play it was clearly meant to wound with the hope of embarrassing me in front of others, and it wasn't a group that was comfortable with humiliation. It wasn't part of the life as far as I'm concerned because it was more to do with her frustrations and wanting to take vengeance in a way where she wasn't taking responsibility for her anger.

I also had another girl friend who flared up in an ugly way at me only twice and both times were in front of other people who were not a part of the lifestyle. It was again more to do with her not opening up to her real feelings but using the situation to take revenge in a way that was humiliating without her being accountable.

As a Dominant

My Fav - to have the subject enter a room they've never been in before. They are faced with bright lights, flood lights. I am behind the lights so they can only hear me. I am talking to someone on the phone. All my comments to the subject are in a tone of bored indifference, as if the subject is an inconvenience. "oh, just stand up there till I get done here." then to the person on the phone, "Yes, she just came in. (pause) oh, I don't know I guess she's okay." then pick out some small physical attribute, "the nose is a little big," or she has these eyes too close set," then "take off something" what ever it is in a petulant voice, "no not that, something else>" back to the phone, "You'll never guess what she tried to do, she took off her (say the first item) yes, what an amateur." Louder voice, "turn around." back on phone, "did you get that item I sent you. Oh you did, what did you think," Louder voice, "did I say to stop, keep turning," Back on phone, "well, I didn't want her I thought you'd like it." Louder voice, "well, don't make yourself dizzy, stop that now." Into phone, "I don't know if I get bored with this one I'll send her along." And on and on, revealing her flesh and commenting on it all. It's great fun.